Thursday, October 30, 2008

A moment of clarity.

I figured it out.

And I've been correct all along. Men and women are human beings, and both people want the same thing. Validation and attention. Both people want to know... they are important to someone.

And for a coupling to work. Both people need to have someone to be stupid with. Someone to be completely illogical with.

And both people need to have a feeling of over compensating for the other, just at different times.

So if a girls sucking a guys dick, she needs to feel like she's doing it selflessly. to please him. and he needs to pick up on that selflessness.

if a guy's spending $200 on dinner, for a girl, he needs to feel like he's doing it for no reward, and she needs to pick up on that feeling.

I believe thats the secret to a successful pairing. Now of course, there are still larger issues of desi women, from a certain generation who've been whitewashed to hate their own kind, and basically think all desi men are like their fathers (who they no doubt have negative opinions of) that need to be addressed, indian women definitely need an education in confronting pro-white biases that YES, WE ALL HAVE.

However here's the difference, because I want this to be clear to people

Indian men, yes have a pro white bias.. that ENDS IN BEAUTY. so I may think Jessica Alba or Pamela Anderson is hotter, but it ends there, I dont think shes a better woman, more capable of being a nurturing woman, and a a better human being

yet how many times have desi women been hoodwinked with flowers and romance and all that bullshit.? hmm? all in favor of reinforcing an opinion that white men are betteR MEN., not just better looking.

And so here is the difference.

16 comments:

Anonymous said...

Desi men preference white for looks and desi women preference white for behaviour? Tomatoe, tomaato, potato, potaato....

Beauty (or behaviour) is in the eye (or heart) of the beer (or lassi) holder.

THE_HMF said...

No, please read carefully. Desi men don't prefer whites at all, when evaluating them as complete beings. They prefer them as simply objects of beauty.

Desi women prefer whites as complete better BEINGS, it's an aggregate measurement, not a single one. And behavior can encompass so many things, dont you think?

Anonymous said...

I think alot of people find desi women better looking than white women on average. Don't know where you're coming from here HMF.

Anonymous said...

Try your luck at African American women, HMF. They're supposedly not as picky.

THE_HMF said...

" think alot of people find desi women better looking than white women on average. Don't know where you're coming from here HMF."

no, a lot of women find them hot in an exotic way, but its clear in the US theres certainly a eurocentric view of beauty. Ever read toni morrisons 'the bluest eye"

"Try your luck at African American women, HMF. They're supposedly not as picky."

oh. and you're a racist too...

Anonymous said...

No I'm not a racist but in their own words and in my own experience, they cannot afford to be as picky as desi women, due to the fact eligible black men are MIA in this country. What? You're unaware of this? No black friends?

Anyway, this guy helped me

http://www.ideagasms.net/cracking-the-male-female-code-volume-1

THE_HMF said...

"hey cannot afford to be as picky as desi women, due to the fact eligible black men are MIA in this country. What? You're unaware of this? No black friends?"

Again, more veiled racism. in fact if you actually talked to black women, you'd know that those who aren't from the "immigrant" history, ie, black women from the carribean or those recently emigrated from Africa (ie no lineage to ex-slaves) are willing to bend the rules and let their standards slide a little in order to be with a black man.

Why?

Because that cultural similarity is too strong of an experience, very few white people have even thought about what it's like to be black in this country, let alone attempt to put themselves in that experience. West Indian immigrants are a bit better off because they dont have the years of oppression and negative psychological conditioning behind them.

THE_HMF said...

In other words, black women are highly tuned to finding someone who understands their experience, and are well aware that we live in a euro centric society wher the white man is taught he is better, and more fit for life, in a general sense (not just "looks better" or "behaves better") Indian women still get swept up in this.

Anonymous said...

"are willing to bend the rules and let their standards slide a little in order to be with a black man."

That's exactly what I said, they are not as picky.

Go back and read all the replies you wrote on this page, you are basically re-stating what the posters stated.

Too many puffs?

Anonymous said...

Forget single girls, man. Married desis are hotter AND they got husbands to pay the bills. You just get the booty.

Check out www.desicouples.com and make your life sublime!

THE_HMF said...

"are willing to bend the rules and let their standards slide a little in order to be with a black man."

you said it in the context of them choosing non-black men. Im saying their lack of pickiness expresses itself in choosing black men of lesser "value' so to speak.

THE_HMF said...

whoever you are, you come up with the weirdest stuff.

Anonymous said...

.... and if all else fails, there's always www.badindiangirl.com

THE_HMF said...

before you know it you'll be telling me about "hotindianbitch.com"

Anonymous said...

This sista lays it down pretty clear on what women want and why they hold back...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bqg_ceFM30I

Anonymous said...

HMF, you are in the NY area, right? I'd really be interested in meeting you. I'm a female who has argued to many of my female friends (and even the male ones who are, sadly, victims of what I consider to be an emasculating set of societal double standards) a lot of the points that you bring up in your blog. It hasn't won me a lot of friends, but then again, most people are either altogether oblivious to the truth or they find it offensive. (A side note: I personally find white guys unattractive, both on a physical and psychological basis). This might be somewhat forward, but are you single? Please let me know if you might be interested in meeting--I think we have a lot in common.