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One of my favorite movies is Fight Club.

Watching it again, it got me to thinking about male aggressive behavior, a topic that I've debated
for a small amount on SM. But now I think it's time to extend the debate here.

Of course, let's add a bit of context to the discussion. It's an often quoted joke that women would
be "fat, happy, and hairy" without men. That is to say, their desire to lose weight, and remove their hair, and generally
"beautify" themselves stems from a socialized, learned behavior, to attract, appeal to and please men.

Let's just keep that in mind. Back to male aggression.

Now, let's think back to the playground, I'm talking ages 5-12 years old, How do certain guys get attention
of the women? by doing math problems? in India maybe, but not in western society. In fact, I lost a
student council election on that very platform. But thats another point.

When I did martial arts, a girl was very transparent about why she was dating a certain guy

"I'm glad Lou is my boyfriend, he doesn't lose. [his martial arts tournaments]"

"What if Mike beat him next week."

"Mike won't beat him."

But early on, we as boys, learn that girls like the boys that can physically dominate their opponents, and do so. Basically those that show the aggression early on. So couldn't we conclude that the aggressive behavior is a socialized, learned characteristic, that's reinforced by positive feedback from women? Of course we can, because that is most definitely the case. Which is why when a woman laughs or mocks a man publicly, it provokes an aggressive impulse - an impulse that has been wedged into his brain as the "go to" method to earn female approval - be aggressive (maybe even violent) and defeat opponents.

It's internalized from an early age, and progresses its way to later on in life, where physical dominance isn't as important, but dominance and "owning others" still is. So the lawyer who out argues, the chef who out cooks, the crack dealer who out-deals all win women in their respective spheres.

Yet women are given the privilege of having their behavior explained away as socialized, trying to please men, etc... where as we are usually slapped with "boys will be boys" or "boys are naturally aggressive" which if it's true, and it's such a bad thing...

why do women engage in relationships with a naturally corrosive and inherently aggressive group of individuals?

Of course, the dirty little secret is, women *WANT* boys to be boys, because it provides them a simple mechanism to target when attracting them.